Before you judge, hear me out. Yes, I’m an infertile woman praying for God to give her twins. Yes, it is bold and sounds completely crazy. Some of you are going to have a knee-jerk reaction to it and think, “That’s going a little far, she should be happy with one baby!” or “That may not be God’s will for her.” Both of those thoughts are valid to some extent. I would be happy with one baby and thank God for him or her. And, twins (or a singleton for that matter) really may not be God’s will for me.
But, it doesn’t hurt to ask.
In Luke 18, Jesus tells a parable about prayer. He describes a widow who has been wronged and an evil judge who “neither feared God nor respected man.” The widow goes to the judge daily to ask for justice. He cares little about her plight and refuses her initially, but finally because of her persistence the judge does what she asks saying “because this widow keeps bothering me, I will give her justice, so that she will not beat me down by her continual coming.” Jesus explains that God loves us and that he is much more likely to answer the prayers of his children than an evil judge.
In Luke 11, Jesus teaches his disciples to pray. He then tells another parable about prayer. In it, a man knocks on his neighbor’s door in the middle of the night asking for bread for a friend who has arrived late after a journey. The neighbor at first says to leave him alone as he and his family are sleeping, but the man keeps knocking and knocking. Finally, the neighbor opens his door and gives the man what he asks for, just so he will go away and let them sleep. That’s how Jesus tells us to pray! With perseverance and persistence and boldness! God is telling us, his children, that it’s OK to ask him for things boldly and to keep asking for things persistently. He wants us to do that!
Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened. You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not! So if you sinful people know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good gifts to those who ask him. – Matthew 7:7-11 (NLT)
I love this. Jesus is describing God as our father and he says our relationship is like that of a child and parent. As a child, I didn’t need to be afraid or apprehensive about asking my earthly father for something good that was in his power to give. The answer was not always yes, but he certainly didn’t give me something bad or dangerous when I asked for something good. Not only that, my earthly Dad wouldn’t have been mad if I asked him for something outlandish or bad for me, he would have just said no. How much more does our heavenly father love us than our earthly father? How much more is our heavenly Father’s power to give? My heavenly Father won’t be angry or annoyed with me for asking because he loves me and twins are in his power to give, so I ask. Worst he can say is no.
In Philippians 4, Paul says to pray and “let your requests be made known to God.” What he doesn’t say is “make sure you are 99% sure that your request is God’s plan and then ask for it.” That’s a cowardly way to pray, but I’ve certainly been guilty of it! My father God loves me and he doesn’t want me to ask for things only when I think he will say yes. I never know what his answer will be, but I can ask for any good thing and trust that he, as my Dad, will know and do what is best for me. I would love to have twins, so I am requesting it. God can sort out whether it’s in his plan for me.
So, I pray boldly and with persistence, trusting my God, my Father, to do what is best for me.
Think I’m too bold? Consider Jacob. Genesis 32:22-31 describes how Jacob wrestled (literally!) with God and refused to let God go until he blessed him. Makes my little twin request seem pretty tame, right? What about Jabez in 1 Chronicles 4:10? His prayer was pretty bold, asking to be blessed, but God said yes and blessed him greatly. Let’s not forget Hannah either. She was infertile and bawling in a church making bargains with God for a son (that’s my paraphrase, read 1 Samuel 1) and God granted her request!
These people prayed boldly, asking God to bless them. The bible describes children as a good thing, a blessing. Twins are just a double blessing all at once.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. – Psalm 127:3 (ESV)
So, I am praying boldly, with persistence, for a good thing, a double blessing: twins.
Still not convinced? Think I’m asking too much? My God, my Dad, is all powerful and it is OK to ask him for improbable or impossible outcomes that may not be his plan, because he cares and he is able. Read Luke 22:39-44. Here Jesus knows that there is little time left before he will be arrested, tried, beaten and crucified. He cries out to God, his father, “if you are willing, remove this cup from me.” Jesus knew full well that this was not God’s plan. He knew that his request was improbable, arguably impossible, and maybe asking too much, but in his suffering he asked anyway. It is OK to ask! Jesus did. I can.
So, I’m asking, not demanding, just asking. I’m asking my Dad to do something unlikely, even miraculous, because I know he can. I am asking that he open my womb and cause me to be pregnant with twins. If you’re so inclined, please join us in praying for this miracle. It may not be his plan for us and he may say no, but it is OK to ask. If he says no, I know that he will use that outcome to continue to grow and sanctify me and praying for twins will be a part of that.
But… what if he says yes?